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The Let Them Theory, Mel Robbins

The Let Them Theory is a two-step process that Mel Robbins uses to help us understand people and their behaviors. The first step is to let people be who they are without trying to change their behavior. The second step is letting me change how I respond to that behavior.  She says we are wasting time and energy trying to change people, especially those we love most. The Audible version is narrated by the author. As I listened, I kept waiting for the famous question, “How is that working for you?” that Dr. Phil asks people who explain their own behavior when dealing with others. 

Robbins does not ask that question, but it naturally flows from the list of things that are not working. She supports the Let Them Theory with scientific research and real-world applications, including from her own life. The book is about more than two simple words and is worth your time to read and reflect. 

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Welcome To The Moser Files

I’m glad you have found The Moser Files, a digital portfolio of things remembered and maybe a few things that some would advise me to forget. You will find evidence of struggles, successes, some failures, and reflections on life. A professional portfolio is usually a biography designed to promote a job applicant and impress a hiring manager. That is not what you will find here. As you look around at the pages of my life, you will see that I have nothing to sell. In fact, I’m giving away memories, experiences, and possibly some advice. I spent much of my legal career getting paid for advice to public officials, private clients, churches, friends, and even family. 

A word of caution to my readers: I’m retired and no longer a licensed lawyer in Washington, or any other state, so anything you read here is not to be taken as legal advice.

You are invited to contact me or make comments below. All I need is your name and email address. Thanks for being here. 

Tom Moser, Mount Vernon, Washington, USA

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Education & Army

I include the United States Army in this page on education because, if nothing else, the military is an educational process. In fact, it is much more than an education, but that is a story for another time.

Internships

During my college years, I was fortunate to have had the opportunity to intern for two legislators. Both men had represented the central Washington State area, where I had lived for most of my youth.

Law Practice

At the end of my 45-year legal practice, I feel satisfied with what I accomplished and the course of my career. I don’t think every lawyer feels that way about their career path. I enjoyed a combination of public and private law practice.

Books

This is a partial list of books I’ve read in the past several years. I have omitted a few books that I did not bother to review at the time. I started this website during the COVID-19 pandemic, and my list of books I read in 2023 is not complete.

Faith Life

The Bible says faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen. Hebrews 11:1. It is not intended to be a comprehensive description of a much broader theological concept; yet, it contains two critical descriptions of faith.

Writing

During my professional career as an advocate, I wrote for a very limited readership. Lawyers write motions, memorandums, briefs, and responses to the same from opposing lawyers. Additionally, lawyers often write letters, which can be highly detailed and technical in nature.

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DMZ, The Captives Set Free

We were on constant alert along the DMZ in anticipation of aggression from the North Koreans. On December 23, 1968, our unit was deployed to Panmunjom to provide perimeter security when the 82 American POWs were released at the Bridge of No Return, separating Noth and South Korea.

The photo below was taken by Stars and Stripes as the prisoners were released.

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