The Let Them Theory is a two-step process that Mel Robbins uses to help us understand people and their behaviors. The first step is to let people be who they are without trying to change their behavior. The second step is letting me change how I respond to that behavior. She says we are wasting time and energy trying to change people, especially those we love most. The Audible version is narrated by the author. As I listened, I kept waiting for the famous question, “How is that working for you?” that Dr. Phil asks people who explain their own behavior when dealing with others.
Robbins does not ask that question, but it naturally flows from the list of things that are not working. She supports the Let Them Theory with scientific research and real-world applications, including from her own life. The book is about more than two simple words and is worth your time to read and reflect.